Each friendship in our lives can mean something much different and with the advent of social media we tend to expand our horizons. Now personally I am friends with many people on social media. Some famous (or almost famous) and others being everyday people. I know people from Canada, Australia, Germany, and the U.K. just to name a few. Will I meet most or even some of them… I hope one day but in the greater context of life I know many will stay online as that’s how life goes. Rarely do we make friends that become close enough to us over such a distance but when it does happen… we can feel lost as we wish they were closer. A wish to hug that person who became so important in our lives.
This leads me to last weekend and one of the best weekend trips a girl could take. For the past year and a half I have become very close to my friend CJ. She is someone I confided in and someone who is always there on the good days and bad. She is one of the few girls I strived to meet and I hoped that one day I could. Well thanks to my close friend Keira that happened. Keira lives locally and has become one amazing friend in a very short period of time. Like CJ she has become an integral part of my life and I introduced them to each other… obviously online. Those two have also become friends and it seemed that we all needed to meet one day and that one day finally came last weekend. Friday I came home from work, handled the homely duties I had to do and was able to spend a small amount of time with Cindy for our 16th anniversary. After that we jumped into Keira’s Ranger and headed off into the great unknown traveling 9-10 hours to Virginia from western PA to meet someone who has been one of the most amazing friends. Two girls riding off into the darkness heading to uncertainty while one of them tried to stay awake past 10:00 (that would be me). We rolled into CJ’s around 2:00 am and for the first time I was able to hug one of my best friends after riding down with another.
After arriving we settled in for a short round of sleep followed by an amazing day filled with visiting that didn’t involve Facebook… followed by a day on the beach. Lucky to catch a 75 degree day in mid November. It was peaceful that the only time I had to use my phone was for my kids and pictures. We could actually converse. It was nice to walk along the beach and see the vast expanse of the ocean and to realize the world is so much bigger then we realize. Walking along the beach and later down the boardwalk we basked in the sun and I for one was able to lose myself in the moment. Keira, CJ, Steph, and I out on the town lobingbthe day… followed by some amazing Jumbalia…
As we roll through life we play it safe. We hope for acceptance, worry for safety, fear the old friendships, and question what tomorrow will bring. We spend years coming out and many more trying to keep friends or making new ones. We worry about the future of ourselves and the semblance our lives can have. In all this worry we lose site of the small things that are in our lives. Online friends who help you cope or the local friends you love to spend time with.
Life isn’t all about the mundane and we need to keep site on who we are and why we are alive. We must work to live not live to work. Sure we may love our jobs but we all need an escape. We must live for the good times. From the road trip to the visit I felt alive. Feeling the warm air kiss my skin and the cold water touching my toes. Life became so much more then a passing glance…. I glanced at what was passing me by. Don’t lose site like I did… thankfully I had some amazing friends pointing me back on my course due north and now thinking of my next adventure… where I go I don’t know, but I know who to thank for living again. For brightening the candle flame.
Another friend once quoted:
“I keep waiting in the dark for someone to come and save me, I’ve been holding on to something I could never change, We all search for higher ground, When the world comes crashing down, But I know, Nobody will come into the dark and save me”
~Crown the Empire, Initiation~
I can only say…. when we bring all our candle lights together we become a bright beacon. We must shine our light for everyone so no mater how dark it is where they stand…. they will see the light of us all.