Behold… The age of the Internet, social media and all the wonderful comments that come with it. Everyday I’m bombarded by digital spitballs of wonderful “opinions” in the comments sections from articles all the way down to pages that you would think are friendly. From the memes to condescending judgements about my living situation (or others like me). Then some pastors with their recent ploy to call on men to prove their faith by shooting transgender women in the bathroom. With all the hoopla… I figured I would touch on something that has become some sort of smart ass rebuttal to people like me.
Full Definition of identity
a : sameness of essential or generic character in different instances
b : sameness in all that constitutes the objective reality of a thing : oneness
a : the distinguishing character or personality of an individual : individuality
b : the relation established by psychological identification
: the condition of being the same with something described or asserted <establish the identity of stolen goods>
: an equation that is satisfied for all values of the symbols
(Pulled from Merriam Webster)
So when a transgender person identifies as a female, they are doing it to the letter of the definition. More over the idea that when someone is identified as transgender it isn’t a decision made day by day. It is something that has taken years to process, handle, and deal with. It comes with many bouts of self doubt, self evaluation, and self shameing. We totally destroy ourselves and pull through depression, loss, and suicidal thoughts. We have to weigh the though of losing everyone and everything we have ever had and have just to be free of ourselves.
Yes, I identify as a transgender woman but I also identify as so much more:
Home improvement gal
And so much more.
So yes, our identity is who we are as a person. It’s not some made up falacy we pull out of our rears one day. It doesn’t change for access to a restroom every so often. It’s has come with sacrifice, tears, and pain. We have done our time in our prisons and others have paid the ultimate price to just be free. We have shown our true identity to the world not for them, but for ourselves and if you think it’s a choice… Maybe you need to research what it takes to transition. Look up and see not only the struggles, but look at hose before and after pictures and see the happiness in someone’s eyes when they are finally free. B
So the next time you see someone say “I identify as a millionaire, should the bank give me the money?” Remember that transgender people have put everything on the line. We have struggled, funded, and lived lives of hell to be free. If you want to identify as a millionaire… Put in the work, time and commitment. Place yourself into the struggle to make it happen. It’s a choice for you to do such. A choice to better your life, sadly, our choice is life or death.
Not all of us are here to comfort, educate, and answer every question. Some of us are there to help. Just remember as you’re learning and questioning. Remember that if you wouldn’t ask your friend the same question… It’s not a good question. For example, I don’t go to work and ask one of the girls there what’s in their pants… Not my business. So don’t think it’s ok to ask a transgender person the same question. It’s just none of your business.